Mrs So-Nso wasn’t gonna hear my concern that her puppy was severely underweight.  “She eats all the time!” she barked at me when I suggested increasing the calories.  My shields flared into action surrounding me with a wall of protection against the energy she had thrown at me.  

Now, a few years ago, I would have gotten angry at her outburst and unwillingness to hear me.  I would have raised my voice, gotten a tone and mentally written her off as a “difficult client”.  Isn’t that so easy for us to do sometimes? Has this ever happened to you?

We write people off and get angry at them for their choices.  It’s the role of our ego to keep us safe and it does it’s job exceedingly well.

I kept repeating my message in different words trying to find the language she spoke.  Every option I picked was met with resistance. Why wasn’t she hearing me?  When we can keep our ego out of discussions they tend to go much better.

When you can see that your ego is flaring and trying to protect you it can feel like a wall has risen around you and the self talk in your head might get louder, all as protection against the perceived threat to your life.

Eventually, Mrs So-Nso’s sister picked up the puppy and was shocked by the inadequate weight.  There it was, the answer to my prayer. The sister. The soft sounds of success started to play again!

When we know we are right but don’t have to prove it, when we afford the client the honor of knowing they are doing the best they can, when we can allow a higher power to work magic, then we can release all the human protective sequences that get triggered in a situation like this.

How do you react when your message is not being received?  Do you get tense, louder, or hear that self-talk ramp up?  Whatever it is that you feel, it can be changed.

We all have the power to react to situations in a way that keeps us safe and powerful, yet also affords the other person the same things.  That is when the magic happens. Your belief that both parties are divine allows you to move beyond the human ego response and find solutions.  And, if solutions cannot be found, you can leave the issue in the exam room and move on with a clear heart, knowing you did your best, and it is out of your hands.  

So, my encouragement to you today is to stand in your power and your divinity and give the same to those that you interact with today.  It’s a practice, but gets easier as you go along.

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