Oh, be still my beating heart!
Ok, I admit it. I am a Star Trek geek. Captain James T Kirk (yes, I know the T stands for Tiberius) was my first crush. I want a tribble. I want to taste Saurian brandy and I want Scottie to beam me up (notice the present tense!).
Looking back on it we know that there are some things wrong with that 60’s TV show, but it did have some good ideas. And one of them is that the Captain is always in charge of where the ship goes and YOU, my friends, are the Captain of Your Ship!
I know I have been adrift in life at times. Frustrated, depressed and angry at how my life was going. I was able to point out easily what others’ needed to do to make me happy and how the world was treating me unkindly. I could tell clients where they were wrong; I could see how staff could be better at work; I could get angry at loved ones for not doing things right.
Overcoming frustration, sadness and anger can be as easy, or difficult, as changing your mind. That’s right. You have to change your mind and then the magic happens. Suddenly you will wake up to loving words from your family, seemingly more efficient co-workers, and joy in every aspect of your life.
You are perfectly placed in this world at this time. You are uniquely designed for this life, the one you have right now, AND you are meant to be happy, successful and loved.
Clients don’t make you mad, YOU do. Loved ones don’t disappoint you, YOU disappoint yourself. Being angry at someone is like drinking poison and expecting another person to die.
You are the Captain of your ship! You are in control of the direction of your life. Take control of the helm by examining your thoughts and emotions. Point them in the right direction and you will be headed to your coveted destination. Allow them to continually dwell in negativity, blame and shame and you will not get what you deeply desire from life.
Clients do not change, but your energetic dance with them does once you are no longer unconsciously judgemental, defensive and angry.
Your co-workers do not change, but your relationship with them will, once you see them in their glory and competence.
Your loved ones feel your sadness and disconnection. We so often put up walls or leave everything at the office, that our loved ones get used to having ½ of us. Once you are able to bring the best part of you home at night…..well, that is a game changer.
You are in charge of your life – only you can create the life you want with all the things that make you happy and less of the things that frustrate you.
It can be easy, it just takes persistence and awareness. I love examining the thoughts that cause me frustration or anger and asking if they are really true or could I feel better by believing something else?
You have the ability to take any belief that causes you pain (they don’t love me, they don’t believe in me, I am an imposter, I am always going to be miserable, I am a doctor and this is the life I signed up for) and transform it into a more comfortable and eventually an uplifting thought.
I’ve been on the other side for much of my career until I learned how to turn it around. If you know that your life could be better, even if it seems great right now, reach out by email or set up a call. I want all of us to be living our best life, not just a good life.
Because I believe this so strongly, I am offering a free one-on-one phone call to get to know each other, and outline the strengths that you already have on your side and your goals. Then, if it feels good to us, you can sign up for a package of 8 weekly 60 minute calls that will guide you on creating the life that you want. You will learn to see the events in your life as stepping stones not barriers. You will see yourself as the strong, powerful, successful person that you are. I believe in you. I believe in your strength and your wisdom.
Live Long and Prosper!