Stress – Heal ThySELF DVM

What Keeps You Up at Night?

I woke up last night at 2 am.

This doesn’t usually happen to me. I sleep really well. But there are things going on in my life and lots of changes on the horizon. I’m stressed. When I woke up I was wide awake with my mind racing.

What if this….. What if that…….. When should I……

Money issues, relationship issues, holiday issues, work issues………..

I couldn’t stop my mind from racing. I felt physically worse as the minutes dragged by.

I snuggled closer to my partner to feel loved and comforted as I listened to his breathing and felt his warmth. Nope! It just infuriated me that he was sound asleep and probably enjoying a great dream. Instead of poking him to wake him up and be miserable with me, I went downstairs.

As I was walking down the hallway I gave myself permission to feel however I wanted to feel – scared, worried, frustrated. That stopped the internal comments for a few seconds. “Huh,” they said, “it’s not that much fun when she doesn’t play along and get all worked up.”

Then I decided to play hard ball with the internal reel and I pulled out a couple of mantras and decided to drown out the negative with the positive.

“I am worthy of everything I desire”

“Money is love and it flows abundantly to me”

“I make decisions easily and enjoy the process”

I almost chuckled as I coached myself out of a rabbit hole of negativity. The fears and doubts were silenced. I won’t say I was able to immediately go back to sleep, but I felt a whole lot more at ease as I snuggled back into bed next to my partner.

I share this so that you know exactly how these ideas I talk about can be used in real time, in real life. As I use them daily, I am able to change the direction of my thoughts pretty quickly at this point.

Tell me, what has kept you up at night?
What worries and fears are keeping you from living the life you deserve?

Set up a call or send me an email and we can investigate them together and get you back on track!

Develop Your Resilience Muscle for a Successful Career

We all tell ourselves lies. Those thoughts we think that derail us: “I am stupid, incompetent, worthless.” But when you actually see those thoughts as lies, you can instead turn them into weak, ineffectual thoughts that DO NOT derail you.

During today’s ‘Q 24 hr, Your Daily Dose of Vet Med Success’ I discuss an experience I had this week at work which highlights the need for us to find the lies we tell ourselves.

If we can find the lies we tell ourselves, we can find the truths as well. Watch the video and let me know how you create resilience in your day.

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Colleagues who work with me find the keys within themselves to unlock their intuitive knowledge of what thoughts and beliefs to shift to gain the happiness they deserve both in and out of the office. It is truly amazing to witness the growth in their confidence in handling the situations that used to throw them off the tracks.

Make 2018 the time you say “I deserve every happiness I can imagine at work and at home.”

Can’t wait to chat with you!

What Is Your Framework for Success?

During the latest ‘Q 24 hr, Your Daily Dose of Vet Med Success’ I share with you what is at the cornerstone of my success in veterinary medicine!

Success, for today, is defined as having a framework to handle the emotional and stressful issues we face every day.

So enjoy the video and please leave your thoughts in the comment section of the ‘Q 24 hr, Your Daily Dose of Vet Med Success’ or reach out to me directly at pamela@healthyselfdvm.com.

As always, you can set up a 1:1 call with me to explore what you are wanting to create in your life at https://calendly.com/healthyselfdvm!

A Revolutionary Way of Looking at Vet Med

My decision to be a veterinarian was a calling, not a decision. I knew from a very early age that I would be a veterinarian. So now that I am, how do I navigate the stresses and struggles of the profession? Watch the video to find out what has worked for me, and how you can see our profession in a new light.

How Can You Keep Anger from Derailing Your Day?

I feel the need to speak out about a FB video that was posted recently by a veterinarian who I will not name here. She was distraught about the price of veterinary care and the effect that cost has on our clients and patients.

While I agree that this is an important topic, I feel that her approach was hurtful and disrespectful of her colleagues. Everyone in the field of veterinary medicine does the very best they can every day, day in and day out, despite the pain and suffering we see every day. We are not in it for the money, that’s for sure!

I created this with the desire to help my colleagues who may have been hurt by the video.

Some things to think about as you watch the video are: What does anger feel like in your body? Can you respond to anger in a new way, and what would that look like to you? When you feel angry at someone, could you deal with it differently by acknowledging that there is an underlying cause of the anger?

You can watch the video and let me know how you answered any of the above questions by emailing me at pamela@healthyselfdvm.com or setting up a private 1 hr phone call by visiting my scheduling center.

And please, as always, let everyone see the unique, compassionate person you are!

What if grief and anger over euthanasias was easily avoided?

We are so often tasked with taking the lives of our patients. It can be depressing and overwhelming at times.

Recently I heard Dani Mcvety, DVM the CEO and founder of Lap of Love speak, and she put into words how I feel every time I perform a euthanasia. She tells clients that ask how she can do euthanasias day in and day out, that it is an honor to perform this task.

How much better would you feel if you could come to the place that it is an honor to perform a euthanasia? Not that you won’t be sad, and not that you would perform one that you did not agree with, but overall, how much stress would that mindset relieve?

To get to that point, one thing to consider is that no experience has meaning until you assign it one.

For example: we all know that some people meet the personal diagnosis of cancer with acceptance and the belief that their life still has meaning and go on to achieve great things. Others can never move past the anger, hurt and fear of it. The diagnosis of cancer was the same, but the meaning assigned to it was different.

The end result of the euthanasia is the same, but how you frame it allows you to move forward with serenity and calmness vs grief and anger.

I use this tenant “no experience has meaning until you assign it one” often in my day. When I diagnose a terminal disease in a patient, I am sad and upset for awhile. Realizing that I cannot change the diagnosis, but only try and make the best of it, I try and find a way in which this experience might be of value for me or the client. Such as: I get to learn about recent advancements in the treatment of this disease, I might meet new doctors that will become part of my “go-to referral team” in the future, I might have dealt with this personally with one of my own pets and so have a chance to heal that experience a bit, I get to allow the clients to find their way through the process with dignity, grace and as much serenity as they can. The client gets to heal previous experiences with terminally ill pets, or maybe even family.

It is all in how you can frame the experience.

Euthanasias do not have to be a sad, overwhelming stress on us. We can chose how we think about them and how we allow the clients to experience them. It is all in the meaning we assign to the experience.

Try this idea on for size as you go through your day. Email me your questions or experiences with it, I’d love to hear from you.