Turn One of “Those Days” into Just Another Day

Have you ever had one of “those days” where it seemed that you cared more about something than anyone else?  

One of those days where it seems you just can’t get your message across to someone?

I have had those conversations. For example: Talking with a client on the phone who has a pet that I think really needs to come in and be seen. I’ll go through all the reasons I think the pet should come in, all the while getting more and more frustrated about the situation.  I can feel my blood pressure rising as I get tense in my body, my throat gets tight, I talk louder and punctuate my words and interrupt the client on the phone all because I desperately want to help that pet. Have you ever had a conversation like that?

Let’s say the pet doesn’t come in for whatever reason.  I am left feeling angry at myself and the client and worried about the pet.  I take that anger home with me that night and find myself replaying the conversation over and over and over again keeping myself in a state of anger and worry.  I know a lot of us do this. It’s a very human thing to do but it really isn’t helping you deal with the emotions, it is just keeping you in it.

That cycle – replaying and reliving the emotions of a difficult conversation is what I have learned to break, and you can too.

One idea that I use, is to stop and notice when I have that loop going in my head about how mad I am that the client is not caring enough about their pet, and how worried I am about the pet.

I stop my thoughts in their track and replace them with the thought that the client is doing the best they can with where they are in life and their spiritual evolution and while it may not be up to my standards, it is the best they can do.  Whew. When I remind myself of this belief that I have, it immediately lightens the load I need to carry.

I follow it up with a prayer for the client. “I release any responsibility I feel for the decision the client is making.  I have done my best. I believe the client is doing their best and please help them continue to seek the attention that their pet needs.”  Immediately I feel more calm and centered as I release the responsibility to a higher power.

I will also include the pet in the prayer.  “Please take the pain and discomfort away from this pet and give them peace and healing.”

When I hear myself going back to the angry replay I stop, hit pause, and fast forward to my prayer.  

How many times do we repeat scenarios in our heads keeping the negative emotions in our experience?  This is a key factor in burn-out because it is draining. Not only are you drained by the initial experience, but you are drained by the repeated replays of it.

STOP yourself when you see yourself doing this.  Replace it with the thought that you did the best you could and that is all you can ever do.  You cannot make people do things, you can only educate and offer. The rest is up to them.

And so, as my responsibility to you to offer my knowledge, I am offering a free consultation with me about anything that is bothering you right now. Let’s troubleshoot the issue and let me help guide you to that knowledge that is already inside of you that has the answers. This is my mission, to help relieve the suffering of those in this field and create a stronger, healthier and happier community.

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