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A Valentine’s Day Wish for You

Unreasonable client demands
Untrue and Unrelenting social media rants by clients
Long and unpredictable hours
Inadequate support staff and poor wages
…………

The list of stressors in our careers could go on! These are reasons that I hear so many of my colleagues talking about the need for boundaries, and I totally agree!  

But what kind of boundaries and where do they start?

I can try and educate the public til I am out of breath about their role in our high risk of suicide.  I can try and persuade them of our absolute desire to heal every animal that comes across our door at a reasonable fee.  But I may never change their opinions. The reality is that the only thing I can control are my own beliefs and those are the boundaries that need to be created and kept intact.

To create boundaries we need to focus inward, not outward.  What clients do or say is a direct result of my beliefs and assumptions.  How I react to their words or actions is MY choice. At some point you have to decide that YOU are in charge of your emotions, and that no one can make you feel something you don’t want to feel.  Now I don’t mean that we don’t feel sad or angry at times. I don’t mean to say that there are not angry people that come into our clinics. What I want to emphasize is that when you feel negative emotions, you benefit from examining what belief allowed you to feel them and then play with changing that belief.  

For example:  
A client is complaining to me in the exam room that our prices are too high and she can’t afford the bloodwork to diagnose the issue.  She is on a bit of a rant about it, actually.

I have many choices in how to respond EMOTIONALLY:  
I can get angry, embarrassed, ashamed, sad, righteous, empathetic, loving.

Which emotion I chose to feel is up to me, and is based on the beliefs I have when I hear her rant.

I might feel a negative emotion if:  
– I believe that she is demeaning my knowledge or trying to guilt me into a discount.
– I believe that my prices are too high or I shouldn’t need the blood work.
– I believe that she is on a fixed income and the last thing she needs is a sick animal.
– I believe ‘who the hell is she to tell me what she’ll pay for my services‘!

I might feel a positive emotion if:
– I believe her rant has nothing to do with me.
– I believe that she has issues in her life  that I may never know about which cause her to act out.
– I believe that I need the lab work to reinforce my knowledge from the exam.
– I believe that we are all part of the same higher power (God, Allah, Buddha) and I can see it in her even as she acts out.

Repetitive themes abound in our lives so that we have multiple chances to heal those wounds that have been created by believing lies about ourselves and the world.  

Beliefs about money, time, love and humanity are always showing up since they are the universal experiences.  How they show up is a reflection of what we believe about them.

Believe that humanity is cruel and uncaring, and that is what you will see.

Believe that money is hard to get or hard to hold onto and that is what will repeatedly be shown to you.

You are a powerful creator and thus the statement “self fulfilling prophecy”.  

You see what you expect to see.  I don’t mean that negative things won’t happen to you – they happen to all of us but when you are looking for the good, the joy and the abundance in life, more often than not you will see it. And the negative things that happen will be seen as chances to create a new belief, chances to move beyond a challenge, chances to love yourself even more.

All the negative emotions are self-protective, instinctual relics of our past.  We need them to navigate real dangers, but we often use them as protection against changing and growing our beliefs and perspectives.  When we can investigate why something made us angry – by looking internally – then we can diffuse the situation, adopt new beliefs that are born of our power, and the need to react to that scenario again will be dissolved.

Boundaries are a critically important part of self-care and they arise from within, from self love.  Look inward and heal yourself so that you can show up as the powerful, amazing superhero you are in both your work and your home life.   

That’s my Valentines Day wish for you. Love yourself enough to have boundaries that allow you to enjoy your career and your life.

I Think I Thought A Lie

Any thought you think that makes you feel bad – is a lie!

I have heard this statement said several times and I cannot improve upon it with more words, and so this blog is going to be very short.

I want you to really focus this week on what thoughts make you feel bad –angry, frustrated, sad, resentful – and find the lie in the thought.  

Shining a light on the lie is this first step to disproving the lie, and in its place creating a true statement to believe.

Every thought you think that makes you feel bad is a lie!

The only thing we are in control of in this life is our thoughts.  So if there is a thought that creates negative emotions for you (and we all have them all the time), it only has power over you if you believe it.  If you can see it for the lie it is, then you can believe the truth in the alternative thought.

A belief is simply a thought that has been thought often enough that it is taken as a fact.

Say something to yourself often enough and you will start to believe it.

Any thought that creates negative emotions is a lie.  As Linda Kohanov says in Way of the Horse “Emotions weren’t created to torture us, but to protect and inform us.  They only hang around and intensify if we persist in ignoring the wisdom they represent.”

Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to become aware of  your thoughts and the accompanying emotion. That’s it! Be aware…

The extra credit step for those over-achievers reading this (and I know most of my audience are!) is to FIND THE LIE in any thought that creates a negative emotion and FIND A TRUE STATEMENT to take its place.  Say that true statement to yourself as many times as you say the lie, and you will be on the path to a better day. In this way we are not pushing away or ignoring the negative thought, but we are investigating how to create a more true statement to take its place, one that allows us to feel a more enjoyable emotion.  

I love hearing from you so let me know how the assignment is going for you. Email me at Pamela@HealThyselfDVM.com !  

Captain to the Bridge!

Oh, be still my beating heart!

Ok, I admit it. I am a Star Trek geek.  Captain James T Kirk (yes, I know the T stands for Tiberius) was my first crush. I want a tribble. I want to taste Saurian brandy and I want Scottie to beam me up (notice the present tense!).     

Looking back on it we know that there are some things wrong with that 60’s TV show, but it did have some good ideas. And one of them is that the Captain is always in charge of where the ship goes and YOU, my friends, are the Captain of Your Ship!

I know I have been adrift in life at times.   Frustrated, depressed and angry at how my life was going.  I was able to point out easily what others’ needed to do to make me happy and how the world was treating me unkindly.  I could tell clients where they were wrong; I could see how staff could be better at work; I could get angry at loved ones for not doing things right.

Overcoming frustration, sadness and anger can be as easy, or difficult, as changing your mind.  That’s right. You have to change your mind and then the magic happens. Suddenly you will wake up to loving words from your family, seemingly more efficient co-workers, and joy in every aspect of your life.

You are perfectly placed in this world at this time.  You are uniquely designed for this life, the one you have right now, AND you are meant to be happy, successful and loved.  

Clients don’t make you mad, YOU do.  Loved ones don’t disappoint you, YOU disappoint yourself.  Being angry at someone is like drinking poison and expecting another person to die.

You are the Captain of your ship!  You are in control of the direction of your life.  Take control of the helm by examining your thoughts and emotions. Point them in the right direction and you will be headed to your coveted destination.  Allow them to continually dwell in negativity, blame and shame and you will not get what you deeply desire from life.

Clients do not change, but your energetic dance with them does once you are no longer unconsciously judgemental, defensive and angry.  

Your co-workers do not change, but your relationship with them will, once you see them in their glory and competence.

Your loved ones feel your sadness and disconnection.  We so often put up walls or leave everything at the office, that our loved ones get used to having ½ of us. Once you are able to bring the best part of you home at night…..well, that is a game changer.

You are in charge of your life – only you can create the life you want with all the things that make you happy and less of the things that frustrate you.

It can be easy, it just takes persistence and awareness.  I love examining the thoughts that cause me frustration or anger and asking if they are really true or could I feel better by believing something else?

You have the ability to take any belief that causes you pain (they don’t love me, they don’t believe in me, I am an imposter, I am always going to be miserable, I am a doctor and this is the life I signed up for) and transform it into a more comfortable and eventually an uplifting thought.

I’ve been on the other side for much of my career until I learned how to turn it around.  If you know that your life could be better, even if it seems great right now, reach out by email or set up a call.  I want all of us to be living our best life, not just a good life.

Because I believe this so strongly, I am offering a free one-on-one phone call to get to know each other, and outline the strengths that you already have on your side and your goals.  Then, if it feels good to us, you can sign up for a package of 8 weekly 60 minute calls that will guide you on creating the life that you want. You will learn to see the events in your life as stepping stones not barriers.  You will see yourself as the strong, powerful, successful person that you are. I believe in you. I believe in your strength and your wisdom.

Live Long and Prosper!

Stories Are the Key to Feeling Better

This post was originally posted in October but the topic of the stories we tell has been on my mind lately.  Every experience we have is a story waiting to be told and we are the authors. Be aware of the stories you tell yourself as if they are facts.  Our lives are fiction and we can erase and rewrite the chapters anytime we want. Please read on and find the meaning of your day in the story you tell.

I don’t know about you, but this last week or so has been very trying.  The social and political happenings are really pressing on me and I feel more reactive than normal. This is the unfortunate 3rd anniversary of my dad’s passing and the 4th anniversary of Dr Sophia Yin’s passing which brought the mental health of this profession into the forefront. So I’m feeling a little frazzled.  

(And in December, the CDC came out with a study confirming the high risk of suicide in Veterinarians!)

I have found that acknowledging how I feel helps.  Just saying that today sucked, that I want to scream (and then do it!), or that I am devastated by current events helps those feelings to subside a little which gives me breathing room.

Breathing room.  Take the time to acknowledge your emotions and breathe through them.  

Big emotions can feel scary and we tend to want to push them down and ignore them in the belief that they will go away or that looking at them will overwhelm us.  But emotions are a useful tool for examining your thoughts and beliefs.

One way to turn a belief on its head is to realize that no experience has meaning until you assign it one.

For example: we all know that some people meet the personal diagnosis of cancer with acceptance and the belief that their life still has meaning and go on to achieve great things.  Others can never move past the anger, hurt and fear of it. The diagnosis of cancer was the same, but the meaning assigned to it was different.

I use this tenant “no experience has meaning until you assign it one” often in my day.  Feeling the big emotions of diagnosing acute renal failure or hemangiosarcoma can be overwhelming.  I might get mad at a clients’ decision or lack of communication with me. But maybe there is a story to tell, a meaning to assign to the experience that will allow me to feel a little better about it.  

I often ask myself “why am I reacting so strongly to this situation?”  Strong emotional reactions mean that something about the situation is at odds with a deeply held belief, even an unconscious one, about yourself.  In those situations ask yourself “If I was the client, what would my belief be to have made that decision?” Often times I find the answer is something along the lines of “I would be embarrassed (feel guilty, feel ashamed, feel I let them down).”  

When you can ask why YOU are upset with it, having nothing to do with the other person, vast areas of growth can be achieved. Your emotions are the compass to how closely aligned you are to your higher self and when there is discord you feel strong emotions.  Don’t get focused on the other person. Ask what the emotion is trying to lead you to and tell a different story about the situation. We all get mad at other peoples’ actions but asking what it would mean if you did that action is a chance to take back your power and heal a wound.  

So I encourage you to feel your emotions and notice the accompanying stories.  How can you reframe the thoughts so that they lead you to a better feeling place?  Just for today, breathe through those big feelings and acknowledge them. Make the conscious choice to feel better and allow your brain and body to start moving you in that direction.  

Try this idea on for size as you go through your day.  Email me your questions or experiences with it, I’d love to hear from you.  And if you want to chat in person, click here to sign up for a free 1 hr phone consultation.  And please feel free to share this Newsletter with your colleagues!

It’s Not Always About You!

Taking things personally is so easy to do!  We do it without even thinking of it!

When someone attacks us verbally, or makes comments about us to others, it is so easy to fall into the trap of taking it personally.

What does taking it personally mean?  It means that we make the comment about us, we put meaning to it that satisfies our need to be right, our need to be safe and our need to defend ourselves (thank you monkey-mind).  When we take something personally we are assuming that we know what the other person meant and wanted us to feel.

Taking things personally, making it about US, is a great way to create drama, emotion and stress where there may not need to be any.  Let’s look at an example.

We hear someone say that “we are just in it for the money.”  Right away our hackles go up and we are ready for a fight. But this only happens if we have taken it personally.  If we have allowed their comment to affect our belief in ourselves or affect how we believe others think about us. If you can allow that first flush of anger wash over and through you and take a step back from it, you can see that the comment is a reflection of THAT person’s beliefs, not yours.  Perhaps THAT person feels some sort of conflict about charging clients, their clients’ ability to afford them, their own finances and debt etc.

Or a client tells us that we don’t know what we are talking about, they found real info on Google.  If we take that comment personally then we are insulted and angry which can spiral out of control as we  re-play the comment in our head days and weeks later. But what if, when they say that, you can allow it to wash over you and not land inside?  What if you can recognize that they are entitled to their belief about you, but it has nothing to do with you!

Not taking things personally also sometimes means that I have to let go of the need to be right and the need to be the right person for everyone.  How often do you find yourself in a disagreement because you need to be right? What if both you and the other person can both be right?  Wow! Mind blown! Both of you can be right, and still not agree with each other.  This sort of realization is so liberating and allows for all kinds of expansion in your relationships at work and at home.  

So I encourage all of you to practice taking a step back whenever you hear anything that flares your defensive emotional muscles.  Take a breath. Ask yourself:

“Does what I just heard have anything to do with me?”
“What would I be like if I knew that others’ opinions do not matter to me?”

How would it feel to not react in anger the next time you are confronted? Not taking things personally keeps you from getting on an emotional merry-go-round that just keeps spinning.  

It doesn’t mean that you are ignoring the situation.  It simply means that you have moved past the monkey-mind induced negative emotions into the realm of self-care and finding solutions that allow you to feel better.

Please let me know how not taking things personally allows you to be more of the person you know you are.  How does your day flow when things roll more easily off your back?

You can contact me via pamela@healthyselfdvm.com or set up a personal free 1-on-1 chat about this by visiting my scheduling site.  And, as always, continue to be the wonderful, compassionate rock-star badasses that I know you are!  

Drop Your Bags at the Door

When I was young, maybe 7 or 8, my mom used to take me clothes shopping for school.  I remember going into the Colony Shop in the Altoona Mall and seeing all the beautiful dresses. I liked to walk around the displays with my eyes wide with all the colors, running my fingertips over the fabric and delighting in the ribbons and bows.  

I loved looking at the dresses and imagining myself in them. How I would walk, and twirl and dance in them! It was so much fun. Then I would get to try the dresses on, and oh how big and special I would feel as I took that first look into the mirror.  I would see myself in the perfect dress and feel like a princess. Everything was right with the world and then…

My Mom would look at me and say that it didn’t fit well enough and that we couldn’t purchase it.  She would fuss at the shoulders of the dress usually and say how it didn’t fit in the shoulders right and I couldn’t have the dress. This perfect dress. The one with the pink tulip buds on it, the one that had the pink and green sash and bow. The one with the perfectly pleated and flared skirt.  The one that my heart was set on.

My mom only wanted me to look my best.  That was important to her. She wasn’t being mean or cheap – in her way she was looking out for me. Unfortunately, she didn’t know what lesson I took away from that dress experience that was then repeated many times over.

What I heard was “you are not good enough for this dress.”  “Your shoulders are not the right size for this dress.” But I was in love with the dress.  I wanted the dress. It looked divine on me. Why couldn’t we just buy the dress and make my dreams come true?

Then it happened. The lie I began to live by was started by a seemingly trivial experience of buying a dress.  The lie I lived most of my life with began that day and was:

“Don’t want anything.  The minute you desire something, you won’t get it and you’ll be disappointed and that hurts way too much.  Just don’t want anything.”

That lie became a truth in my life.  I can see evidence everywhere of how I made that belief come true over and over again.  When our mind believes something it works very hard to create a reality that matches that belief. Over and over I would want something and see it disappear. It didn’t take long before, as a child, I stopped wanting things, I stopped dreaming of my future because I believed dreaming and wanting was the surest way of not getting it.

I tell you this story to illustrate the amazingly effective way our brains take events and create meaning and a code we live our life by.  

  • What events jump out at you when you recall your childhood?  
  • What story do you tell about yourself or the world based on that experience?
  • Are you willing to see the event as something different and rewrite your story and create a new way of moving through life?

My efforts are going to be placed on rewriting the belief that wanting something creates hurt.

What belief are you wanting to rewrite?

I know this isn’t directly related to veterinary medicine…or is it?  We are humans and we come to work every day with our beliefs firmly entrenched, for good or for bad.  We carry baggage into the office every day that affects how we experience our co-workers and clients.  I, for one, want to lessen the baggage, so that I am more fully present and healthy to do my job. The less I carry into work, the less I carry home.

What are your beliefs about clients?  Does death have to be devastating and sad?  Are you good enough? Smart enough?

What baggage are you ready to drop?

What Keeps You Up at Night?

I woke up last night at 2 am.  

This doesn’t usually happen to me.  I sleep really well. But there are things going on in my life and lots of changes on the horizon.  I’m stressed. When I woke up I was wide awake with my mind racing.

What if this…..   What if that…….. When should I……

Money issues, relationship issues, holiday issues, work issues………..

I couldn’t stop my mind from racing.  I felt physically worse as the minutes dragged by.  

I snuggled closer to my partner to feel loved and comforted as I listened to his breathing and felt his warmth. Nope!  It just infuriated me that he was sound asleep and probably enjoying a great dream. Instead of poking him to wake him up and be miserable with me, I went downstairs.

As I was walking down the hallway I gave myself permission to feel however I wanted to feel – scared, worried, frustrated.  That stopped the internal comments for a few seconds. “Huh,” they said, “it’s not that much fun when she doesn’t play along and get all worked up.”

Then I decided to play hard ball with the internal reel and I pulled out a couple of mantras and decided to drown out the negative with the positive.

“I am worthy of everything I desire”

“Money is love and it flows abundantly to me”

“I make decisions easily and enjoy the process”

I almost chuckled as I coached myself out of a rabbit hole of negativity.  The fears and doubts were silenced. I won’t say I was able to immediately go back to sleep, but I felt a whole lot more at ease as I snuggled back into bed next to my partner.

I share this so that you know exactly how these ideas I talk about can be used in real time, in real life. As I use them daily, I am able to change the direction of my thoughts pretty quickly at this point.

Tell me, what has kept you up at night?
What worries and fears are keeping you from living the life you deserve?

Set up a call or send me an email and we can investigate them together and get you back on track!

Slow Down, You’re Moving Too Fast…

Ah, a little Simon and Garfunkel to start the day…

Mindfulness.  The practice of being in the moment, aware of and appreciating what you are doing in the moment, versus doing one thing while your mind races around other unrelated topics (and usually stirring up trouble!)

Slow down, you’re moving too fast, you’ve got to make the morning last, just kicking down the cobblestones, looking for fun and feelin’ groovy!

Wow, the image those lyrics bring to mind relaxes me immediately.

I realize that as life dumps stuff on me in a day or a week, my ability to be in the moment is oftentimes compromised as my mind replays conversations, problem analytics and worries over and over, accomplishing nothing except keeping me in an agitated state.

The dishes get done, the bed is made, the dog is walked, but all while my mind is going in circles about a million different things.

Slow down, you’re moving too fast….

Mindfulness.  

The ability to be focused on the immediate task at hand.  It is an age old practice of staying centered and calm and allowing your mind to be quiet. Gratefulness and appreciation for the immediate sensations of doing the dishes-the wonder of water, the amazement that water comes from the ocean right to your sink as you wash dishes that held the food that nourishes you that started out in a field somewhere tended by a stranger.

Connectedness.  Appreciation. Gratitude.

Today while I contemplated what to write for you, my mind was jumping from topic to topic.  I couldn’t decide. I followed some internet breadcrumbs and ended up at a site that had mindfulness gathas (short prayers).  As I read them my mind felt immediately calmer and I felt myself physically relax. And, a blog post was born so that I could share this with you.

Take a look at these short prayers and see how they could be very useful to you as you move through the day.

Washing Dishes                                         Going to Sleep
Each dish I wash                                        Falling asleep at last
Is my most cherished child                   I vow with all beings
Each moment contains                           To enjoy the dark and the silence
Boundless love                                            And rest in the vast unknown.

The mindfulness prayers:
https://www.beliefnet.com/faiths/buddhism/2004/02/gathas-for-mindfulness.aspx

And, listen to some Simon and Garfunkel today, you can never go wrong with them! https://youtu.be/So0ZrTwf8vI 

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Halt the Music…There’s a Problem!

As I went through my work day yesterday, I was struck by just how happy I was.  The soft sounds of success were the soundtrack in my mind. I was appreciating my staff and how amazing and dedicated they are.  I was struck by the clients love of their pets and their willingness to invest time and money into keeping their furry family healthy.  I was feeling confident and communicating my thoughts well, and then…………SCREEEECH…………HALT THE MUSIC!

Mrs So-Nso wasn’t gonna hear my concern that her puppy was severely underweight.  “She eats all the time!” she barked at me when I suggested increasing the calories.  My shields flared into action surrounding me with a wall of protection against the energy she had thrown at me.  

Now, a few years ago, I would have gotten angry at her outburst and unwillingness to hear me.  I would have raised my voice, gotten a tone and mentally written her off as a “difficult client”.  Isn’t that so easy for us to do sometimes? Has this ever happened to you?

We write people off and get angry at them for their choices.  It’s the role of our ego to keep us safe and it does it’s job exceedingly well.

I kept repeating my message in different words trying to find the language she spoke.  Every option I picked was met with resistance. Why wasn’t she hearing me?  When we can keep our ego out of discussions they tend to go much better.

When you can see that your ego is flaring and trying to protect you it can feel like a wall has risen around you and the self talk in your head might get louder, all as protection against the perceived threat to your life.

Eventually, Mrs So-Nso’s sister picked up the puppy and was shocked by the inadequate weight.  There it was, the answer to my prayer. The sister. The soft sounds of success started to play again!

When we know we are right but don’t have to prove it, when we afford the client the honor of knowing they are doing the best they can, when we can allow a higher power to work magic, then we can release all the human protective sequences that get triggered in a situation like this.

How do you react when your message is not being received?  Do you get tense, louder, or hear that self-talk ramp up?  Whatever it is that you feel, it can be changed.

We all have the power to react to situations in a way that keeps us safe and powerful, yet also affords the other person the same things.  That is when the magic happens. Your belief that both parties are divine allows you to move beyond the human ego response and find solutions.  And, if solutions cannot be found, you can leave the issue in the exam room and move on with a clear heart, knowing you did your best, and it is out of your hands.  

So, my encouragement to you today is to stand in your power and your divinity and give the same to those that you interact with today.  It’s a practice, but gets easier as you go along.

If you’d like to talk more about your power and the role ego plays in your life, send me an email or sign up to talk with me one-on-one here: https://calendly.com/healthyselfdvm. Tell me what is bothering you today.

Turn One of “Those Days” into Just Another Day

Have you ever had one of “those days” where it seemed that you cared more about something than anyone else?  

One of those days where it seems you just can’t get your message across to someone?

I have had those conversations. For example: Talking with a client on the phone who has a pet that I think really needs to come in and be seen. I’ll go through all the reasons I think the pet should come in, all the while getting more and more frustrated about the situation.  I can feel my blood pressure rising as I get tense in my body, my throat gets tight, I talk louder and punctuate my words and interrupt the client on the phone all because I desperately want to help that pet. Have you ever had a conversation like that?

Let’s say the pet doesn’t come in for whatever reason.  I am left feeling angry at myself and the client and worried about the pet.  I take that anger home with me that night and find myself replaying the conversation over and over and over again keeping myself in a state of anger and worry.  I know a lot of us do this. It’s a very human thing to do but it really isn’t helping you deal with the emotions, it is just keeping you in it.

That cycle – replaying and reliving the emotions of a difficult conversation is what I have learned to break, and you can too.

One idea that I use, is to stop and notice when I have that loop going in my head about how mad I am that the client is not caring enough about their pet, and how worried I am about the pet.

I stop my thoughts in their track and replace them with the thought that the client is doing the best they can with where they are in life and their spiritual evolution and while it may not be up to my standards, it is the best they can do.  Whew. When I remind myself of this belief that I have, it immediately lightens the load I need to carry.

I follow it up with a prayer for the client. “I release any responsibility I feel for the decision the client is making.  I have done my best. I believe the client is doing their best and please help them continue to seek the attention that their pet needs.”  Immediately I feel more calm and centered as I release the responsibility to a higher power.

I will also include the pet in the prayer.  “Please take the pain and discomfort away from this pet and give them peace and healing.”

When I hear myself going back to the angry replay I stop, hit pause, and fast forward to my prayer.  

How many times do we repeat scenarios in our heads keeping the negative emotions in our experience?  This is a key factor in burn-out because it is draining. Not only are you drained by the initial experience, but you are drained by the repeated replays of it.

STOP yourself when you see yourself doing this.  Replace it with the thought that you did the best you could and that is all you can ever do.  You cannot make people do things, you can only educate and offer. The rest is up to them.

And so, as my responsibility to you to offer my knowledge, I am offering a free consultation with me about anything that is bothering you right now. Let’s troubleshoot the issue and let me help guide you to that knowledge that is already inside of you that has the answers. This is my mission, to help relieve the suffering of those in this field and create a stronger, healthier and happier community.

 You can reach me via email or set up a time to chat here: https://calendly.com/healthyselfdvm