Why am I able to enjoy work and be fulfilled?
How does leaving this job allow me to grow and be happier?
These are examples of high quality question affirmations; an exciting technique I was introduced to by my life coach, Jana Kellam.
Most of us have heard about affirmations. They are positive statements repeated to ourselves to challenge our negative self talk and create change in our way of thinking. Some examples would be: I am lovable or I am happy to go to work every day because I am appreciated.
High quality questions are those that allow for our brain to find positive answers that create change and growth.
Questions like:
What am I to learn from this experience?
(instead of ‘Why does this always happen to me?’)
-or-
What positive outcome could come from changing jobs?
(instead of ‘What’s wrong with me that I can’t find a job I like?’).
Our brains are fabulous at keeping a loop of self-talk running in our heads that can either build us up or keep us down. Our ego is also always looking to answer the questions we ask ourselves in the ways that will keep us safe, with safe being defined as in the box we know, with the beliefs we have.
But by combining the two techniques, we unlock our brain in a way to allow it to create positive answers that allow for growth and expansion. It creates a sense of curiosity about a situation that can unlock new answers.
The question “How does leaving this job allow me to grow and be happier?” might be answered by thoughts like “I will be able to start my own business!” or “The next job will reward my initiative and dedication!” or any number of other ways that feels good to you instead of depressing.
I encourage you to try this technique. Create high quality question affirmations and see how they allow you to find answers where you only found roadblocks and negativity before.
If you would like any help using this technique, or to share how it worked for you, please email me (Pamela@HealThyselfDVM.com) or set up a time to talk here: https://calendly.com/healthyselfdvm